The more I read, the more I watch, the more I learn from intersex people the more I’m so very glad we pushed back against doing surgery on our intersex kid.
The conversations we’ve had with them so far have confirmed it’s absolutely the right decision. At some point they will want to discuss it in detail about why we made the decision we did. And I’m so glad we will be able to say we focused on their body autonomy and right to consent.
This should be the default for all kids but for intersex kids there’s almost no discussion from doctors or surgeons about that reality. They just bypass all of that and go straight to what they term corrective surgery without ever once considering that intersex kids aren’t broken.
Parenting An Intersex Kid 